Signs of Troubled Marriage

Posted on December 3, 2007 in Marriage

As relationships are very complex it is difficult to provide one solution for all. But the problems can definitely be categorised. Most issues can be resolved by honest dialogue and open conversations provided the partners are willing to resolve it. Now what are the signs of a troubled marriage before things go awry.

The common signs of a troubled relationship are:

Decrease in affection towards each other

Withholding affection and sexual intimacy when at home. Love among the two seems to have waned. There is no more passion for each other. Things have become mechanical at home. Nothings seems to sustain interest at home. The relationship seems to have undergone a change. They don’t yearn for each other any more and they seem to have lost interest in each other. They don’t do things together anymore.

Abusing one another

Being unhappy with each other, these people start inflicting physical, verbal and sexual abuse on each other. They make life hell for each other and vow not to give peace to each other.

Bickering when together

When the two is no more in love they start bickering over little things. They grow impatient and engage in frequent futile arguments. Sudden abrupt behavior changes like unprovoked hostility in spouse and expressing frustrations over the relationship and home becomes a regular afair. There seems no will to resolve.

They compain against each other. They become faultfinders and constantly accuse each other for anything and everything.

Avoiding each other

Bitterness in the relationship makes the two become aloof and withdrawn. They vow not to see each other again. There is an unwillingness to cooperate in decision-making. Since they have lost interest in each other they start avoiding each other. It is at this juncture that the communication has broken down.

Jealous about spouse

Suspicion of infidelity in the partner seems to rise as they try to find why the other is behaving in a different manner. In every relationship one of the partners is possessive and this partner becomes oppositional and dominating. This change makes the other defensive and in course of time they start blaming and criticising each other for what ever has happened between the two.

Taken by Depression

Breakdown in communication leads to boredom, restlessness, and moodiness. Loneliness takes over and the weaker personality will be depressed and will start making unexplained absences.

Spending less time together

When the distance grows less time is spent together. They engage themselves in their own interests and hobbies. They spend more hours at workplaces and spend time elsewhere.

Geting anxious day by day

Sleeplessness takes over. Worries over things they anticipate would happen, which in reality might not take place keep them anxious. They constantly worry over imagined problems and become nagging and intolerant.

Depending on others

Depending on friends and relatives and not able to bear the spouse’s presence. Involving friends and relatives in mediating issues which seems to be irreconcilable by the couple.

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