Posted on November 24, 2007 in Marriage
It is not difficult to find if your partner is cheating on you or not. We always sense it but we are taken by surprise only if the person packs away before he becomes intolerable. Some obvious signs of a cheating husband are:
- He smells good. He grooms himself and takes extra care about his appearance. He comes home later than usual
- Your sex life may change. He does not seem to enjoy sex with you as he used to, or choose to avoid it completely whenever he can. Your partner will ask you to try out new ways of love making techniques
- You can also spy on him to find his ways and whereabouts. You can put him through a gossip test. Raise a topic of cheating using a fictional work colleague or friend. Most people are interested in a little gossip, especially if it involves a subject as infidelity. But when cheats hear the topic of cheating brought up, they tend to panic within.
- Cheating partners are more attentive to their spouse at the start of an affair. But a serial cheat being amoral might not show this sign. Once the affair has ripened he will start finding faults with you. He loses interest in his children and other household chores.
- Your husband spends more money than usual.
- Be suspicious if you get phone calls where the caller hangs up on hearing your voice. It is difficult to check on cellular phones because he will keep them close to him. He will start deleteing all incoming calls from caller ID
- He picks up quarrel with you for no reasons in order to walk out of the house
The internet has seen the rise of online affairs, which often developed into real physical love affairs. For online affairs watch out for signs such as:
- He spends a lot of time in internet chat rooms, especially late at night.
- When you walk into the room he gets irritated and defensive when you say he is spending too much time on his PC; he minimizes one of the windows and he does not allow you to use the PC
- He carries condoms while you are on pills. He insists the child seat, toys etc are not left in the car
- You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back
- His co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence
- You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse
- Your spouse seems to be less comfortable when you are around
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September 15th, 2008 at 1:11 am
I am certain that my husband is cheating. It is so painful and it just makes me tired to think about it.
November 10th, 2008 at 9:26 am
Dont think about it. Chill out… Try going out with some friends and make some new friends… The best way to find out if your husband is cheating is to contemplate on your sex life. Moreover, you could also try to organise a party for his friends at your place and get a feel of whats going on rather than getting stressed out. worse comes to worse, talk to him, get him in your confidence, plan a dinner or an evening out with him…
August 26th, 2009 at 9:26 am
Well my husband never has money I always have to buy my stuff and he’s been a little cheady at work we have more than 2months with no sex and my family don’t like him I don’t know what to do.