How to Save Your Marriage?

Posted on December 3, 2007 in Marriage

To make your relationship permanent you need to save your marriage. Why then there is a question of saving your marriage now? Perhaps something has gone wrong between you and your spouse and there is a need to re-kindle the love between two of you and enjoy life together for the rest of your life.

It makes no sense in breaking a marriage when reasons are not so strong enough. Little sacrifices can be made for each other because the truth is that no matter what we do we can only grow older and the reality is that we cannot escape death. So it always make sense to grow old together and support each other till death. Old age is the most difficult period in one’s life and no matter whatever you do you remain young, independent and healthy forever.

So compromises which do not affect our integrity can be made as we do compromise in workplaces or in the public places etc. It is better to repair a marriage than incur emotional and financial loss by going through a process of divorce and then the ordeals of courtship, romance and marriage once again.

Both the partners need to talk about it and both should meet a counselor. When both of them wish to give it a try to repair their relationship they need to work harder.

Tips to Save Marriage 

Show interest

Make tea/coffee for him or her when you get up before your spouse; cook his/her favorite meal; have his paper in his favorite chair; drop her at work; bring him/her a cup of coffee while he’s relaxing; pick a flower and bring to her; help her clean the dishes after dinner; help her setting the table for dinner; take her for shopping etc.

Be kind and shower love

Don’t look back into your unpleasant past. Hope for better things in future. Forgive and be kind to each other. Don’t criticize, gently put forward your expectations. We win people through sweet words, love and affection.

Work on your looks

Make yourself attractive and praise your partner. Talk to each other and clarify your problems, questions and anxieties as it makes no sense in keeping negative feelings lingering in your heart.

Spend time together

Try to spend more time with each other. Every individual has different needs and expectations. So you will know better what your spouse wants. Don’t compare him/her to your role-models or mom or dad etc.

Enjoy more/better sex

Sexual likes and dislikes differ from person to person. So if your sex-life is not like as before, talk to each other and go somewhere away from home and indulge upon each other for sometime.

Respect and praise

Don’t insult your spouse. Be patient. Accept your partner of what/how s/he is and if you can help each other improve, do that. Be sensitive to each other as that would help both of you understand each other and do things to make each other happy. Make each other feel important, praise before you criticize.

Take it easy

Pregnancy, weight gain, menopause etc. all these are part of life. Don’t stress over things which you can’t improve upon. Accept each other for what you too are essentially.

What the Bible says about divorce? 

God’s plan focuses on marriage being a lifetime commitment. ” So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what  has joined together, let man not separate.”(Matthew 19:6).

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