Posted on November 19, 2007 in Divorce
Post-divorce families usually suffer financially. Custodial parents (mostly mothers) generally have less income than most two-parent families. Divorce is an intensely stressful experience for all children, regardless of age or developmental level.
The pain experienced by children at the beginning of a divorce is a sense of vulnerability as the family disintegrates. For obvious reasons, children see divorce as something very traumatic. They are often concerned with their own security, not always with their parent’s happiness.
Stages of growing up after their parents’ divorce
Effects on adolescent children
Adolescents are prone to responding to their parent’s divorce with acute depression, suicidal ideation, and sometimes violent acting out episodes. These children tend to focus on the moral issues surrounding divorce and will often judge their parents’ decisions and actions. Many adolescents become anxious and fearful about their own future love and marital relationships.
Effects of Divorce on the Parent-Child Relationship
In the wake of a divorce, most custodial mothers exhibit varying degrees of disorganization, anger, decreased expectations for appropriate social behavior of their children, and a reduction of the ability of parents to separate the child’s needs and actions from those of the adult.
Long-term Outcomes
The long-term outcomes of well-adjusted or poorly adjusted children draw heavily on the child’s post-divorce quality of life and on the post-divorce or remarried parent-child relationships.
Other behaviors may include problems in school, nervous habits, repetitive physical behaviors, and regressive behaviors such as bed-wetting, fears, and use of comfort items. Children may become clingy and whiny and they may need greater understanding of their moods and behavior. They have a greater need to be nurtured.
Effects of divorce on girls
They suffer from poor self-esteem. After the disappearance of father, they are not able to experience day-to-day caring and loving by an opposite sex with the result they lack the ability to successfully cope with the opposite sex or establish a healthy relation with them.
Effects on children in general
No matter what the situation, the child will be affected in some way or the other by a divorce. Some children may become psychologically scarred from the experience, and still other children may not be affected emotionally at all. Much depends on how well the parents are able to handle the situation.
Advice on Parenting After Divorce
Mothers and fathers are important resources for children. They provide emotional support and practical assistance as well as serve as role models for their children. In some instances, one of the parents may have to relocate. This brings with it a new set of problems; children having to adjust to a new school, friends, and environment.
For parents and their children, holidays and birthdays after a divorce can be one of the most difficult things with which to deal. The psychological adjustment of parents is a significant factor in children’s well-being.
What kind of advice on parenting after divorce is required?
Financial effects
Due to limited economic resources, children in single-parent families may have more difficulties. Generally, family income is positively associated with children’s well-being. A singe parent has to ensure that sufficient income is available to meet up to the requirements of the child.
Emotional Support
A single parent has to make sure that the child is not neglected emotionally. Much attention needs to be given. The parent has to spend time with the child, like play games with him or her, read a book and help out with the home work.
Creating Awareness about the Divorce
The child needs to be informed about the reasons for the divorce and be helped out to cope with the situation. Parents need to appreciate their situation as well, but not be self-centered.
Divorce affects children in many ways. Adequate advice on parenting after divorce helps the parents to understand their children better. They can help their child cope up with divorce.
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March 7th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
it is true that there are some effects which they are highly affects the childrwen,some are:
-the adolence to have fear in engagement in marriage relating to the attitudes of the parents, some children they dont accomplish their goals like their studies,for most of girls they engage in sexual activities at the eary ages which leads to unwanted pregnancies.
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