Posted on June 19, 2009 in Latest News
Miscarriage can be devastating for any expectant parents. Men and women often react differently to loss of an unborn child. While men might move past the emotional aspect of the miscarriage comparatively easily, for a woman the grief can be more profound and long lasting. This is because women generally form an emotional bonding with their unborn child which makes them more vulnerable to the pain. Her feelings may vary from denial to anger to intense sadness to depression and finally to acceptance.
Coping with Miscarriage
Though different people react differently to traumatic experiences in life such as miscarriage, here’s what you may do:
- Accept Your Grief: It is completely natural to feel pain and shock after a miscarriage. So instead of blaming yourself or your partner, allow yourself and your partner the time and space to grieve for your unborn child. You may want to talk about your feelings for your child with your partner and listen attentively to what your partner has to say. Sharing your grief is important to cope with miscarriage.
- Maintain a Journal: You may find writing down your feelings for your unborn child an effective cathartic. It can help particularly when you have no one to share your grief with.
- Reach Out: Reaching out can help you to be around with people who have had similar life experiences (miscarriage) as you have. They may empathize with your loss better than those who have had no such experience. You can even join a local support group and listen to others sharing the grief. This may make you feel less alone and isolated.
- Engage in Activities in Memory of Your Unborn Child: There are special ways you can express your grief. You can plant a rose bush in memory of your unborn child. Or you can make a commitment to donate a certain yearly amount in memory of your child. Holding a special memorial gathering may help you to cope with the miscarriage.
Lastly but most importantly, do not rush in to next pregnancy immediately after your miscarriage; mourn your loss completely. This will help you prepare well (both psychologically and physically) for your next pregnancy.
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