Posted on July 18, 2008 in Latest News
Jealousy is an emotion we all experience many a time. We want to be the best and cannot accept someone else better than us. Jealousy can play havoc with our relationships. We often accuse the other person of being inconsiderate and disloyal if he or she happens to show attention to a person other than you.
Women are often accused of being vain. They love compliments. If a man admires them, they feel very excited and happy about it. Yet, they feel jealous if the same man admires another woman. They run down the other woman, accuse the man of being a flirt and make a serious appraisal of themselves as to where they are lacking.
Jealousy can make you vicious. You may come across as an ill-tempered person. You refuse to acknowledge the presence of another person who is definitely better than you. Self-praise and self-adulation is what you indulge yourself in.
Overcoming this feeling of jealousy is not so easy. One needs the will to do so. Here are a few ways of overcoming it :
How to Overcome Jealousy?
- Try to understand the underlying cause of jealousy and deal with it. You may find it difficult to appreciate another beautiful woman. This could be because you do not appreciate yourself and underestimate you own good looks. Perhaps, you are not that beautiful and not willing to accept it. You find pleasure in finding faults in a person better looking than you.
- Building up your own self-esteem. A poor image of yourself makes you be critical of others. What you need to be is more confident and self-assured
- Be sure of what is happening and not what you are imagining is happening. You may perceive a threat, which is not there. Are you sure that your relationship will get affected by another woman?
- Positive self-talk is good way out. You confidence get boosted by self-affirmations
- Seek reassurance. It helps when others appreciate you and make you feel secure about yourself. Even in a relationship, you can seek reassurance from your partner
- Seek an objective opinion about yourself. Sometimes you may under-estimate or over estimate yourself. A good friend can be honest about you. He or she can also tell whether you are being jealous
- Do not compare yourself with others. Accept yourself the way you are. You will never appreciate what you have or possess. By feeling jealous about someone else’s happiness and prosperity, you will fail to enjoy you own well-being. Under such circumstances, you will feel miserable
- Always try to be forwarding looking. If you feel something is lacking in you, you can change it by working towards it. If you have missed out on a job and someone else got it, you need not feel jealous. There are other opportunities for you to choose from
- Do not pay much attention to your thoughts and emotions. You can rationalize them. If a thought says you are not all that beautiful, you can change it by appreciating what is nice in you
- Keep a positive attitude. Negative feelings and emotions cause much jealousy. Try to appreciate yourself as well as others
Avoid jealousy. It will only make you more miserable and appear as an unfriendly person. A person who is jealous can never appreciate what he or she has. Accepting realities, coming to terms with yourself and complimenting others will make you popular on the social circuit.
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